Most of us learn basic social skills when we’re young that have now become daily habits. At times it’s tough to recognize that these skills must be taught to a child. They don’t necessarily pick up on it themselves. Below is a list of ten social skills every child should learn.
My Mom is big on this skill. She made sure to teach her grandchildren, at a young age, how to properly shake a persons hand, introduce themselves and look the other person in the eyes. This has helped my children remove the fear of making friends and meeting/talking with adults. Practice this skill. It’s fun and valuable.
Asking For Help
Sometimes as an adults it’s tough to ask for help. The sooner our children learn this skill the better. Asking for help provides numerous benefits: relationship building, happiness giving (people love to help others), competence giving, healthy mind and to be more productive with your time … to name a few.
When children learn to follow instructions they become smarter. I say this because if a child doesn’t know how to follow directions how will they succeed with school and understand the lessons? Following instructions shows that you are a person of good character, cooperative, intelligent and dependable.
The awareness and commitment to succeed comes from staying on task. Being more focused and developing concentration skills help children be aware of their surroundings and create a better understanding of gratitude.
Disagreeing appropriately is a skill that empowers children. This provides children the ability to stand up for themselves in a respectful and dignified manner. As children reach adolescence this skill is critical because disagreeing comes natural as they begin to form their own opinion. Disagreements can be positive if handled appropriately.
Accepting “No” as an answer
When our response to something isn’t consistent a child will learn that if they keep asking, eventually you’ll cave in. Teaching that “no means no” shows a child that there are boundaries that need to be respected. This is especially important to learn now as a child then when they’re older and stronger and believe they’re entitled to whatever they want.
Respect is one of the most important fundamental traits. Children are taught to be respectful of other children’s possessions, to respect elders and to keep mutual respect in the home. Respect is a place of comfort and healthy for their mind, body and soul. Teaching respect is by setting the example for them to see, understand and mimic. Treat your child the way you want to be treated and respect will follow suit.
At the playground, for example, when a child disrespects another child the parent demands that child apologize “now.” What is that teaching the child? Teach your child to understand what they did wrong and have them form the thought to apologize. Become a professional at asking good questions that help a child reflect on their own actions. Emotional healing happens when apologies are made by both the giver and receiver.
Emotions are a language. They are tied to an individuals sensory and physical feelings. Teaching a child to be aware of their feelings helps them to cope properly. To provide unnecessary conflicts teach your child a little bit of self talk. Such as: “Why am I acting out this way? What just happened? Is there a better way to communicate this feeling? ”
Parents, caregivers and teachers spend a good amount of time thinking of how to frame feedback to a child. Most of the time we’re torn between the desire to teach and the urge to protect. In an attempt to give criticism we dress it up a bit. Criticism hits a vulnerable spot it’s important to practice teaching a child a growth mindset that effort and challenge make us stronger and better. Criticism is inescapable, teaching a child what to do with it and how to utilize it as a strength of character leads to a stronger, smarter and braver experience.
Children develop health relationships with proper social skills. As children get older they become part of a larger social world. Learning these ten skills not only provides the child confidence in their abilities but provides parents the confidence in their child’s growth to good citizenship.
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